Monday, 28 September 2015

Eid-ul Adha

I hope it's not too late to wish everyone this... Happy Eid-ul Adha. May all your good deeds be rewarded tremendously by Allah s.w.t.

How was your celebration? I celebrated mine with my family first and then in the afternoon we drove to Melaka to be with my husband's family. It was a short vacation for us. A refreshing one I must say. When we got back to KL however, we were shocked to see thick haze covered the city. It's so bad :(

So upon seeing the haze, I made up a song and sang it in the car. My husband just laughed at me.  He said sumbang, whatever that means. Okay, here is my lyric...

Oh jerebu jerebu please go away,
We don't want to see grey sky today,
We want sunshine and blue skies in our days,
So please rain please come our way!

Sing along with me pleaseee :)

On a more religious note, Oh Allah, please make the haze go away. Please give us fresher air. Please hear our prayers today. Ameen. 

Tuesday, 22 September 2015

The day I turned.... sixteen.

I have decided long ago that I stopped aging at age sixteen. So from then onwards when my birthday comes every year (21st September) I celebrate my sixteenth birthday over and over again. Of course, all these are in the heart and not on paper. I am young at heart you see? Who cares what the paper says.

So, yesterday was my sweet sixteenth again. This year's celebration is a bit different than the previous years. It's more special because....

1) the coolest friends in the world (Yaya and Irda) threw a surprise birthday dinner for me along with my sister, Diana, and my habibi. It threw me completely off guard. I did not suspect anything when my husband said, "Lets have dinner, just us." When I walked in the restaurant (Serai at Empire Subang), I was surprised to see the familiar faces there too! OMG! What a heart fluttering moment. Thank you guys for the lovely surprise. And of course, the important thing was that, I got two berry pavlovas XD.

2) this year, I have two families to celebrate my sweet sixteenth with. My family and my in-laws. Yesterday my parents in-law took me to KLCC to have a birthday dinner. At the end of our delicious meal, three waitresses came to the table with a chocolate cake lava and sang a happy birthday song to me. A little bit shy when that happened but a night I will never forget! The cake was yummy... My mum said we will have a celebration for me again when my sister, Farah, is home from NZ. She's coming home tomorrow so I'm hoping to eat another cake soonest! ;p Yes, cake lover I am. 

3) I got an Elsa birthday card from Diana. I'm sixteen remember? So I get to be a Frozen fanatic too! Why did Diana give me an Elsa card? I think it's probably because I gave her a talking Barbie card last June for her birthday. Hehehehe...

4) I have a husband to celebrate my birthday with. This is our first time celebrating together. Hoping for many more years of celebration together. InsyaaAllah. After the dinner yesterday, habibi took me to the KLCC park to watch the colorful fountain. It's my first time seeing that too, so it's magical for me. You see, before marriage I don't hang out at night. I always come home before 7pm. After marriage, things seem to loosen up a bit. ;p

5) I have a little one with me. Alhamdulillah. That's the best present so far.

Thank you Allah for blessing me with wonderful friends and family. Thank you everyone for the well wishes. May you all be rewarded generously by Allah. Love you all for the sake of Allah. Until Jannah, InsyaaAllah.

Friday, 18 September 2015

Oh the things I do to delay work...

I have no specific topic for this post. I just feel like writing something but I don't have any idea on what to write. So I'm just going to blab nonsense (or not) just because I need to satisfy my craving for writing. 

I guess the real reason why I opened this blog is because I want to delay doing work. Hahaha. I interviewed 6 teachers a few weeks ago and I need to transcribe those interviews but oh boy, I feel so lazy. I know by hook or by crook I have to do it so I told my husband I'm going to do it by tonight. Not all six of course. I'm no superwoman. Well, I hope to get at least two interviews done, InsyaaAllah. My husband is out and he's going to check on me when he gets back later tonight. That's why I had to tell him my plans, to make sure I get down to it. 

All work and no play can make you dull. So in between work, when I'm most relaxed, usually before bedtime, I read story books and baby related books. It's surprising that I have time for leisure reading these days. Back in Wellington, I can barely finish a novel. But here in Malaysia, I finished quite a number of books already. However, I chose light novels aka novels that are not too heavy & serious for my brain. Oh but I did read a serious novel in the beginning, A Thousand Splendid Suns. I've been meaning to read that ages ago but I didn't get a chance to read it until now. After that novel, I decided I can't do serious novels anymore while collecting data for my PhD so I chose light novels (light according to me) like Off the Page by Jodi Picoult and her daughter Samantha van Leer, Royal Wedding by Meg Cabot, Lang Leav's book of poems and some books on parenting and babies. I think I want to get the new Shopaholic book (Shopaholic to the Stars) because I used to be a fan of the Shopaholic series. I don't think I'm that psych about the series now but for old time sake, I'll just carry on reading and find out what is happening in Becky's world. 

Okay I better stop writing here and get started on my work.... Okay here goes.... Bismillah....

Monday, 14 September 2015

Avillion, Port Dickson

Last month, we had our second honeymoon or rather babymoon in Port Dickson. We wanted to get away from the city for a while but I couldn't fly (because I was still in my first trimester) and traveling via car would be tiring. Thus, we chose a resort nearby. After scrolling through the web, I picked out Avillion, Port Dickson which is only approximately 50 minutes from KL.

We love the place! I love being by the sea so my husband told me we should book the water chalet.  Our room is on the beach! We had an amazing time. There are two swimming pools at the resort. One is for adults only and the other one is for everyone. Of course we chose to swim in the adults pool. Less people and less noise. Hahaha... There's also a pet corner where we can feed rabbits, tortoise, ducks, birds and chickens. I love animals so you can guess how ecstatic I was when I get to feed and hold the animals. I nearly squeeze the baby rabbit... geram... Oh, I love the spa place best. It's beautiful because it' in the middle of the sea. The price of the spa treatment was hmmm.... okay. Not bad. affordable I must say. I did hair treatment while my husband did foot reflexology. 

Oh yes, just our luck, it was raining cats and dogs the night we stayed there. Actually it was stormy. I kept waking up at night to go to the toilet because it was extra cold. I was a bit scared of the lightning and thunder but Alhamdulillah everything was fine. 

Here are some photos I managed to snap during our stay there...

 Our room...

 The water chalets...

 Beautiful sunset Subhanallah...

 Private beach for the guests...

Chairs for sunbathing...

Lounge at the spa...

We went home refreshed and happy. Someday we'll go back there, InsyaaAllah. Until then, let's explore other resorts, baby! *wink*

Sunday, 13 September 2015

Missing You

I dedicate this poem to my husband because he is away and I am here...

Missing You

As the black sky befalls on us,
And winter froze all the lakes,
On a silent, cold night,

I sit in the light,
Of my own heart,
And feel the warmth,

As of you, I’d like to think,
Do the same,

When you think of me.

Tuesday, 8 September 2015

Thinking of a baby

I don’t know about you, but when we (my husband and I) tied the knot, we made the decision to try and conceive right away. I don’t truly know whether we are ready to become parents or not but when you make that kind of decision, you have to get ready, right? We are not getting any younger, even though I feel like I’m forever sweet 16, my biological clock says otherwise. And the fact that we don’t know when we will successfully make a baby / when Allah is going to bless us with a baby, thus we have to get started asap. It all comes from Allah but we have to put on efforts too. InsyaaAllah Allah will give you the best at the right time and at the right place.

Photo from here.

So I’ve been reading, to prepare myself for parenthood. I found the fact below interesting…

The four biggest reasons couples fight by John Medina, (2010)
  1. sleep loss
  2. social isolation
  3. unequal workload
  4. depression
If you want to become a parent, you have to prepare for sleep loss. I am hoping my baby will be a good boy/girl and let us sleep peacefully. Hahahaha… If not, I suppose you have to learn to take turns with your husband for the night shift and adjust your sleeping time. When the baby sleeps, you go to sleep too, but I know for most women, that’s impossible!

Social isolation… Oh well, maybe we could ask some friends to come over sometimes for a chit chat or maybe go online when the baby is sleeping and chat with your friends? 

When it comes to workload, I have no idea how to make it equal. I always enjoy doing house work alone. I don’t mind doing laundry or cooking or washing the dishes. But I suppose when you have a baby, you don’t have time to do all that anymore so it’s important to divide workload with your husband. For example, I can put dirty clothes in the washing machine and  my husband can do the drying or folding *wink* Husbands have to help their wives! If they don’t, well, major fights will occur and this can lead to depression. 

I have no experience being a parent, and hey, I have little experience about marriage life too. But I will try my best and be patient as much as I can. Making the decision to have a baby is a big thing. Once you’re pregnant, you have to study about pregnancy and parenthood as much as you can so that you are prepared when the baby arrives. Of course, you should also ask friends and family who have the experience of being parents! That can be a major help! 

Wish me luck! With a PhD to complete, being newly wed and a baby on the way, I need all the luck, good wishes and prayers from all of you. Thank you in advance :)