Sunday, 27 December 2015

Falling in love and out of love in one day

Photo courtesy of Google. www.phdcomics.com


Yes it sure feels that way sometimes. Sometimes I love my thesis but sometimes it can be so intense that I wish things were easier. But there's more love than hate. At the current moment while I'm typing this, I'm feeling all lovey dovey with my thesis. But then again, I might be cheerful and excited because my habibi is due to arrive tomorrow morning! I want to see him at the airport. Need to be pretty and lovely! Can hardly wait! My sister flew home two days ago. She is back in Malaysia now, Alhamdulillah, but I do miss her and I think my baby misses her too. Diana was a great help around the house. Vacuuming, cleaning and all. Thanks sis! 

I am now 31 weeks pregnant. Alhamdulillah. 9 more weeks or less to go. It's so surreal. Excited beyond measure but nervous too at the same time. Pray for me! 

Until next time, xoxo.

Tuesday, 22 December 2015

Can't be more random than this. Or not.

Some random things I feel like writing down here.

I am 30 weeks pregnant now. Some days I feel so heavy and tired but other days I can still climb a hill, on foot. Pray for our safety and health, please. Thank you.

I just moved into a new house last week. Finally we found a perfect home for our little family. My house is only 3 minutes walk to the beach, or longer if you walk slowly. It's perfect and I couldn't be more thankful to Allah. Alhamdulillah. 

Darling husband is arriving in Wellington soon. Countdown to 5 more days. InsyaaAllah. Can hardly wait. Need to vacuum the house and have it clean and tidy!

I just realized my seluar tido ada koyak (pajama has a gap). I don't have needle and thread to sew it though. Hmmm....

I am currently transcribing my endless research data. I have videos and audio interviews to transcribe. OMG! On a more positive note, I have set up a nice study area for me to do work at home. Hopefully I can be productive, InsyaaAllah.

Diana is going back home soon. Boohoo... this is sad. I'm so used to having a sister here. Well, my husband is coming so I think I should be okay. Ameen. 

I feel like watching a movie. Haven't watch one for ages! Okay, I did watch 'The Mockingjay Part 2' about 3 weeks ago. That was the last movie I saw. Now I want to chill after so much hard work, or not (house hunting, transcribing, cleaning the house). Anyway, I chose a movie entitled 'Crown for Christmas'. Seems good. It's about an American lady who accepted a job as a governess to a Princess in Europe. Yup, my kind of movie. Going to enjoy watching that after I'm done writing here.

I can't seem to remember my password for my UiTM staff email. I need to send my yearly report to them but how do I do that now? pppffttt..

Christmas is around the corner. Sales everywhere. Not a good idea to go into town or you'll be spending money on unnecessary items. 

Okay. That's all for now. Until next time :)

Tuesday, 1 December 2015

1 year of friendship

My Facebook just notified me that today marks a year of friendship with my husband! Wow! Has it been a year already? Or maybe I should ask, was it just a year? So darling, what have we achieved in a year? A lot that's what! Hahaha...

Within a year, we have developed a friendship, you came to NZ, we got engaged, we got married, we went to Thailand for a honeymoon, we conceived a baby, we went for antenatal check-ups at the hospital, we had Ramadhan together, we celebrated Eid-ul Fitri and Eid-ul Adha, we celebrated my birthday and then now I'm back in NZ and you're in Malaysia (but that won't be long now).

Wow we achieved so much. Alhamdulillah praise be to Allah for these gifts. I couldn't be happier. 'Happy friendship anniversary' my darling. I love you so much, to the moon and back. Actually it's further than the moon. Let's quote Buzz Lightyear here, "To infinity and beyond". Always and forever.

Saturday, 28 November 2015

Travel buddies

"Friends are always friends no matter how far you have to travel back in time. If you have memories together, there is always a piece of your friendship inside your heart." - Kellie O'Connor.

For the first time since I'm in NZ, I have visitors from Malaysia. My sister, who is still here with me, well, she is sticking to me like glue. She is my babysitter. My friends, (Yaya, Ajib and Irda) came to NZ and tour the south island and then took a flight to Wellington to visit me.

I didn't know where to bring them so I thought, let's do something they don't normally do in Malaysia. So I brought them to Penray Gardens to pick strawberries! Strawberries are in season now and they are so fat and juicy!!! Yummy!!!




Then we went to the Lavender Farm because it is nearby Penray Gardens. There weren't that many lavenders yet but they were beautiful nevertheless.




Oh of course we had to make a pit stop at Kapiti Coast. Kapiti is famous for its ice cream. We each got one. It was a cold and windy day but that didn't stop us from enjoying the ice creams! Guess which one is mine?



After two days in Wellington, my friends, sister and I flew to Auckland! We rented a car and went to Hobbiton. That was my second time to Hobbiton but I don't mind going there many times. It's a fun place to be. The funny thing is that, I've never watched the movie "The Hobbits" nor read the books. I watched the first Lord of the Ring movie but didn't watch the sequels. Hahahaha. Okay okay, I'll try to watch them before I graduate. Okay?






Then I took them to Cathedral Cove. At 26 weeks, believe it or not, I went jungle trekking just to get down to the beach. Hahaha. So If I could, you can do it too! Alhamdulillah my friends went back to Malaysia happy (but exhausted). They are actually thinking of coming back to NZ! 


Once you see NZ, you'll always want to return back here! It is such a beautiful place. Subhanallah. If this is Earth, I can't imagine how Heaven will look like. May we all get to see Jannatul Firdaus one day. Ameen. 

Thursday, 26 November 2015

Meeting with a midwife

Alhamdulillah, I found a midwife for us (me and baby)! So our midwife will be looking after me and baby throughout my pregnancy, birthing process and post-natal care up to 6 weeks. I was delighted to have her as my midwife as she is bubbly and cheerful. She seems kind and caring too. She is 60 years old which means she has a lot of experiences. I could have picked someone younger but I think the older the midwife is, the more motherly and experienced she is. Like an academic, a professor who is older is wiser than a new lecturer. Right? 

Anyway, I have a blood test & glucose test coming up next week and another meeting with our midwife. I also have to go to antennal class soon. I haven't been to any, OMG! Blame my busy schedule. Hoping everything will turn out fine and most of all, I am counting days until my husband is here. Miss him sooooooo very much. Our midwife said when my husband is here, she will take us on a tour to the delivery suites. Gosh that's exciting! Okay, until then, keep calm and do PhD work. XD

Praying for a smooth pregnancy and birth as well as for a smooth PhD study. Ameen, Ameen, Allahumma Ameen. 

Friday, 20 November 2015

Getting back on track

I'm back in Wellington and have to be back on track with my studies. I'm not settled in yet. Still haven't found that perfect house. I did view a few houses but they weren't to my likings. The house was either too dirty, too far or too high up on the hill. Anyhow, I have 2 more houses to view this weekend and many more options will come out later, InsyaaAllah. So hopefully something will turn up well for us. InsyaaAllah. 

I  had a supervision meeting yesterday. Just when I thought my research is not interesting enough, my supervisor opened up my eyes to new possibilities. She taught me how to analyze the data and how to think deeply about everything I see and hear when I transcribe the interviews and video observations. It was an eye opener and I fell in love with my research all over again. Having said that, I have to get work done asap. Hoping to get a lot of things done before the little one arrives. Hoping for strengths and diligentness. Ameen.

On another note, Yaya, Ajib and Irda are arriving tonight in Wellington. So I have to play host for 2 days. Now, where shall I take them? Weather forecast says it's going to be windy and cold this weekend. Hmmm... brace yourselves guys! Welly is really cold. Safe flight and see you later.

Have a bless Friday everyone! May Allah grant you your wishes and bestow blessings upon you and your family. Ameen xxx

Monday, 16 November 2015

Craving for strawberries

"Do you crave anything?" I get that question a lot from people around me. Well, I don't know what to say. I don't think I have much cravings but one thing is for sure: I love strawberries so much. I look for strawberries all the time during my first trimester and still eat them regularly on my second trimester.

So I guess that's the answer. I have unbelieveble adoration towards strawberries during this pregnancy. Does that mean my little angel loves strawberries? 

 A trip to the market and I bought a strawberry punnet.

 I also bought mixed berries ice-cream.

Oh and I can't help noticing the beautiful pink wildflowers. 

ps: I still haven't found a place. I viewed two houses but both of them are not suitable for a baby, I think. Too much stairs to climb. Hoping to find a suitable one soon. InsyaaAllah.

Sunday, 15 November 2015

Back in NZ!

I'm back in Wellington, NZ. Flight was okay. Had a few turbulences but there were small ones so it didn't cause any destruction to my emotions. Hahaha. My sister, Diana and three friends (Yaya, Ajib and Irda) came along so I wasn't lonely on the flight. However, we parted ways in Auckland as they want to tour the South Island. Have fun you guys!


Baby kicked me so many times on the flight. I got worried but I assured myself that she is fine, InsyaaAllah. When I reached Auckland, I was scared I might be stopped at the immigration office for questioning about my pregnancy but Alhamdulillah none of that happened. 

I'm missing my husband so much as he is in Malaysia but I tell myself it's only for a month. We can do this!!! Now I am actively looking for a house since I don't have one yet. Right now I'm living with my friend until I get my own house. Hopefully I'll get the house soon! xxx

Pray for me! xxx

Wednesday, 4 November 2015

Who is your favourite author?

Well, I have a few favourite authors on my list for different kind of genres. For example, my fav fantasy authors are J. K. Rowings, C. S. Lewis and Enid Blyton to name a few. My fav English historical author is Philippa Gregory and my fav romance author is Nicholas Sparks. Today, I just want to express how I love Jodi Picoult's books. If you want a mixture of suspense, mysteries, law and order, psychiatric and psychological insights, pick up one of her books. My most favourite titles are as below:

 

'My Sister's Keeper', 'Salem Falls' and 'House Rules'. Some of her books have been adapted into movies. But I like reading the books more than watching the movies because some of the movies altered the stories. For example, in the book 'My Sister's Keeper', the little sister died but in the movie, the elder sister died. Hmmmm..... 

Anyhoo, bottom line is Picoult is a great writer and I can finish reading her book in one day because it's so hard to put down the book. Currently, I am reading 'Perfect Match' in between doing my Phd homework. 

Okay, enough procrastinating. Need to get back to my transcriptions. XD Good night people! xoxo

Sunday, 1 November 2015

I love the way you kick

Alhamdulillah I am now 23 weeks pregnant. How fast! I can't believe it myself. In about 2 weeks, I will be back in New Zealand, InsyaaAllah. I am sad to leave all the people I love in Malaysia but at least I have this little baby with me to accompany me. My husband won't be coming with me so at least I have a part of him with me throughout the journey. He will come and join me in December, InsyaaAllah. Until then, we have to make do with Skype. Thanks to technology. 


The doctor predicted it's going to be a girl! Awwww I have a little princess inside me, Alhamdulillah. I don't really mind what gender the baby is going to be since it's our first child. Boy or girl, I would be happy and love the baby to the moon and back. But of course my husband and I are ecstatic that we are having a girl, InsyaaAllah if the doctor's prediction is correct. Yeay! I can buy cute dresses and hairbands!

Now that the baby is big (about the size of an eggplant), I can feel it kicking and sometimes I think I can feel her hiccups. Subhanallah! Oh what lovely feelings when that happens. Every time I feel the baby move or hiccup, I feel relieved. When I don't feel anything, I get worried and tried to talk to the baby so that she will respond to my voice. When she responded, voila! I'm a happy mum. If she didn't, I console myself that she is sleeping. After all, babies sleep 12-14 hours in the womb so you can't expect the baby to move all the time.

On a religious note, I read in one of my books that it's good for a pregnant mum to read these surahs below for herself and for the baby in the womb... InsyaaAllah benefits will come out of it. 

Al Fatihah
Surah Maryam
Surah Luqman
Surah Yusuf
Surah Hujurat
Surah Yassin
Surah At Taubah
Surah An Nahl

Lastly, I am thankful to Allah for this wonderful gift and we (my husband and I) promise we will try our best to be good parents for this baby. Please pray for our safety and health. May the baby be with me until 40 weeks in the womb and may she come out in this world healthy and beautiful, InsyaaAllah.

Tuesday, 27 October 2015

Wai-o-Tapu, Rotorua

Let me take you to Rotorua today. The smelly Rotorua. Hahaha. That's what people always say about Rotorua and I actually forgot about it when I first arrived there. When we arrived in Rotorua, I thought there was a problem with the car. Maybe the engine gave out or there was a problem with the tires or did we accidentally stepped on some animal's droppings?

Then it hit us! Oh it's the smelly Rotorua air. Hahahaha... Yup it's that bad. The whole town smells bad like rotten eggs. Thousands of rotten eggs. But after a few hours there, we kind of get used to the smell. Oh, this is the town where you can get away with smelly farts too, so fart away! No one will know hahaha... XD

The highlight of our trip was visiting The Wai-O-Tapu Thermal Wonderland. You have to pay to be granted entrance. For adults, it's NZD $32.50 each. Not bad. Certainly cheaper than Hobbiton :p

Anyway, this Wai-O-Tapu Thermal Wonderland has the largest area of surface thermal activity of any hydrothermal system in the Taupo Volcanic Zone. The area is associated with volcanic activity dating back about 160,000 years! The area is covered with water and steaming fumaroles, collapsed craters, boiling mud pools as well as cold pools. It's a really cool and educational place to visit. 

Some photos for your pleasure.... 

On our way to the thermal wonderland.

Look at the colours!

Loving the view.

Danger. That pool is beautiful but it can burn you.

I think this is the Artist's Palette. 

Which way first?

So serene.

The water is cold here. Don't worry.

Amazing colors. Just like my water colours.

Loving the colours of this Champagne Pool. The surface temperature is 74 celsius. 

Me and the Champagne Pool. 
This spring is the largest in the district measuring at 65m in diameter and 62m deep. 

The Devil's Bath. The color is the result of excess water from the Champagne Pool mixing with ferrous salts and sulphur.

Panoramic view of the Devil's Bath


I hope you guys enjoy the tour! Until next time.
Toddles! xoxo

Tuesday, 13 October 2015

Kids say the darndest thing

I met a boy recently and we immediately started talking. He's around 2 plus and very friendly. We talked about a lot of things. Among the topics were: family. He talked about his mum first and then he started talking about his dad. One of the things he said that made me held back laughter was this; He said, "Hari tu saya nampak ayah saya punya janggut ketiak." In English, "The other day I saw my father's beard armpit."

Hahahaha... Oh honey, let's not go there...


Photos below are from Google.



Sunday, 11 October 2015

Oh the things I worry about...

Okay, there seems to be ten thousands things to worry about. I received my ticket to Wellington from the uni last week! Weeeeee! It's dated on the 13th Nov 2015. Flying soon! But that's the fun part. The worrisome parts are:

- that means I have to finish off my PhD work (data collection) by the 13th of Nov. That's a month away! Hoping everything will be settled before I go back to Welly. InsyaaAllah.
- will I be alright on the flight with a pregnant belly?
- who will I be sitting with? Is my seat near the toilet?
- is baby going to be okay with the air pressure on the flight?
- what will the immigration say at the airport gate?
- hoping my luggage won't be too heavy. Not that I'm going to carry it but I need someone to help me with the lifting.
- we haven't found a suitable house to live in yet. 
- will house hunting be difficult?
- will house viewing be tiresome? I hope I won't have to view houses on hills or houses with lots of steps or I'll die of exhaustion.  
- when do I go to the hospital to carry on with my antennal check ups? What do I do? What do I say?
- what do I say to my supervisor when I see her? Is she going to be disappointed and angry at me because I'm pregnant? Okay I don't really care what she is going to think, I love my baby more than I love her.
- my husband is coming in Dec, am I going to miss him and be miserable until he arrives? Well I know I'm going to miss him but I hope I won't be crying or miserable at night.
- what shall I bring to NZ? I haven't packed my bags yet. Do I need to buy some baby stuff from here?

and many more worries to go on... but I shall think positive and chill. I'm good like that. hehehe :) Below is one of my fav poems about letting go of your worries by Rumi.


Let go of your worries
and be completely clear-hearted,
like the face of a mirror
that contains no images.
If you want a clear mirror,
behold yourself
and see the shameless truth,
which the mirror reflects.
If metal can be polished
to a mirror-like finish,
what polishing might the mirror
of the heart require?
Between the mirror and the heart
is this single difference:
the heart conceals secrets,
while the mirror does not.
(Rumi)

Monday, 5 October 2015

Medical check up

Phewww... I just accompanied my husband for his medical check up. It took 4 hours for everything to be completed. The waiting time was too long and I was extremely hungry I could eat a horse. :p

After done with the check up, we went down to the only restaurant in the hospital. It was a vegetarian restaurant. I wanted to eat red meat but we didn't have a choice. To my delight, the food was really good. Our food....

Vegetarian tom yam, lai chi kang, fried mushrooms and brown rice dish with vege soup and sauce.


Anyhoo, back to the medical check up story, Alhamdulillah everything went well, except the doctor said he is a little overweight (hey, I am overweight too :p). But he is working hard to lose weight so that's wonderful. Now we are halfway done with his partnership visa application. I can't wait for him to get his visa done soon so that he can come and be with me in NZ.

A new adventure is waiting for us, InsyaaAllah.

Saturday, 3 October 2015

Once upon a dream

I once wrote a poem about red doors. I was obsessed with red doors... Here goes...

Photo from here.


That building with the red doors


That building with the red doors,
standing majestically in front of me,
with mysterious trees surrounding the parameter,

whispering,
calling,
waving,
to me to cross the line.

That building with the red doors,
has glorious architecture,
that hypnotizes passersby,
with the sound of trap wind howling the area,

haunting,
screaming,
crying,
to me to cross the line.

That building with the red doors,
certainly is one of a kind,
it lures strangers in and tugs the heart,
with majestic panorama spread behind it,
and the rustle of leaves circling the steps,

signaling,
pulling,
commanding,
to me to cross the line

…and there I am,
standing still on the other side of the line,
neither moving forward nor stepping back.

admiring the aged trees,
fighting the sharp wind on the face,
brushing the dead leaves away

…and there I am,
glued to the ground,
on the other side of the line,

Watching the building with the red doors,
the doors tightly shut with all its powerful secrets inside,

contemplating,
fearing,
waiting,
for fate to befall on me.

fwy 29th July 2013

Monday, 28 September 2015

Eid-ul Adha

I hope it's not too late to wish everyone this... Happy Eid-ul Adha. May all your good deeds be rewarded tremendously by Allah s.w.t.

How was your celebration? I celebrated mine with my family first and then in the afternoon we drove to Melaka to be with my husband's family. It was a short vacation for us. A refreshing one I must say. When we got back to KL however, we were shocked to see thick haze covered the city. It's so bad :(

So upon seeing the haze, I made up a song and sang it in the car. My husband just laughed at me.  He said sumbang, whatever that means. Okay, here is my lyric...

Oh jerebu jerebu please go away,
We don't want to see grey sky today,
We want sunshine and blue skies in our days,
So please rain please come our way!

Sing along with me pleaseee :)

On a more religious note, Oh Allah, please make the haze go away. Please give us fresher air. Please hear our prayers today. Ameen. 

Tuesday, 22 September 2015

The day I turned.... sixteen.

I have decided long ago that I stopped aging at age sixteen. So from then onwards when my birthday comes every year (21st September) I celebrate my sixteenth birthday over and over again. Of course, all these are in the heart and not on paper. I am young at heart you see? Who cares what the paper says.

So, yesterday was my sweet sixteenth again. This year's celebration is a bit different than the previous years. It's more special because....

1) the coolest friends in the world (Yaya and Irda) threw a surprise birthday dinner for me along with my sister, Diana, and my habibi. It threw me completely off guard. I did not suspect anything when my husband said, "Lets have dinner, just us." When I walked in the restaurant (Serai at Empire Subang), I was surprised to see the familiar faces there too! OMG! What a heart fluttering moment. Thank you guys for the lovely surprise. And of course, the important thing was that, I got two berry pavlovas XD.


2) this year, I have two families to celebrate my sweet sixteenth with. My family and my in-laws. Yesterday my parents in-law took me to KLCC to have a birthday dinner. At the end of our delicious meal, three waitresses came to the table with a chocolate cake lava and sang a happy birthday song to me. A little bit shy when that happened but a night I will never forget! The cake was yummy... My mum said we will have a celebration for me again when my sister, Farah, is home from NZ. She's coming home tomorrow so I'm hoping to eat another cake soonest! ;p Yes, cake lover I am. 

3) I got an Elsa birthday card from Diana. I'm sixteen remember? So I get to be a Frozen fanatic too! Why did Diana give me an Elsa card? I think it's probably because I gave her a talking Barbie card last June for her birthday. Hehehehe...

4) I have a husband to celebrate my birthday with. This is our first time celebrating together. Hoping for many more years of celebration together. InsyaaAllah. After the dinner yesterday, habibi took me to the KLCC park to watch the colorful fountain. It's my first time seeing that too, so it's magical for me. You see, before marriage I don't hang out at night. I always come home before 7pm. After marriage, things seem to loosen up a bit. ;p


5) I have a little one with me. Alhamdulillah. That's the best present so far.

Thank you Allah for blessing me with wonderful friends and family. Thank you everyone for the well wishes. May you all be rewarded generously by Allah. Love you all for the sake of Allah. Until Jannah, InsyaaAllah.

Friday, 18 September 2015

Oh the things I do to delay work...

I have no specific topic for this post. I just feel like writing something but I don't have any idea on what to write. So I'm just going to blab nonsense (or not) just because I need to satisfy my craving for writing. 

I guess the real reason why I opened this blog is because I want to delay doing work. Hahaha. I interviewed 6 teachers a few weeks ago and I need to transcribe those interviews but oh boy, I feel so lazy. I know by hook or by crook I have to do it so I told my husband I'm going to do it by tonight. Not all six of course. I'm no superwoman. Well, I hope to get at least two interviews done, InsyaaAllah. My husband is out and he's going to check on me when he gets back later tonight. That's why I had to tell him my plans, to make sure I get down to it. 

All work and no play can make you dull. So in between work, when I'm most relaxed, usually before bedtime, I read story books and baby related books. It's surprising that I have time for leisure reading these days. Back in Wellington, I can barely finish a novel. But here in Malaysia, I finished quite a number of books already. However, I chose light novels aka novels that are not too heavy & serious for my brain. Oh but I did read a serious novel in the beginning, A Thousand Splendid Suns. I've been meaning to read that ages ago but I didn't get a chance to read it until now. After that novel, I decided I can't do serious novels anymore while collecting data for my PhD so I chose light novels (light according to me) like Off the Page by Jodi Picoult and her daughter Samantha van Leer, Royal Wedding by Meg Cabot, Lang Leav's book of poems and some books on parenting and babies. I think I want to get the new Shopaholic book (Shopaholic to the Stars) because I used to be a fan of the Shopaholic series. I don't think I'm that psych about the series now but for old time sake, I'll just carry on reading and find out what is happening in Becky's world. 

Okay I better stop writing here and get started on my work.... Okay here goes.... Bismillah....

Monday, 14 September 2015

Avillion, Port Dickson

Last month, we had our second honeymoon or rather babymoon in Port Dickson. We wanted to get away from the city for a while but I couldn't fly (because I was still in my first trimester) and traveling via car would be tiring. Thus, we chose a resort nearby. After scrolling through the web, I picked out Avillion, Port Dickson which is only approximately 50 minutes from KL.

We love the place! I love being by the sea so my husband told me we should book the water chalet.  Our room is on the beach! We had an amazing time. There are two swimming pools at the resort. One is for adults only and the other one is for everyone. Of course we chose to swim in the adults pool. Less people and less noise. Hahaha... There's also a pet corner where we can feed rabbits, tortoise, ducks, birds and chickens. I love animals so you can guess how ecstatic I was when I get to feed and hold the animals. I nearly squeeze the baby rabbit... geram... Oh, I love the spa place best. It's beautiful because it' in the middle of the sea. The price of the spa treatment was hmmm.... okay. Not bad. affordable I must say. I did hair treatment while my husband did foot reflexology. 

Oh yes, just our luck, it was raining cats and dogs the night we stayed there. Actually it was stormy. I kept waking up at night to go to the toilet because it was extra cold. I was a bit scared of the lightning and thunder but Alhamdulillah everything was fine. 

Here are some photos I managed to snap during our stay there...

 Our room...

 The water chalets...

 Beautiful sunset Subhanallah...

 Private beach for the guests...

Chairs for sunbathing...

Lounge at the spa...

We went home refreshed and happy. Someday we'll go back there, InsyaaAllah. Until then, let's explore other resorts, baby! *wink*

Sunday, 13 September 2015

Missing You

I dedicate this poem to my husband because he is away and I am here...


Missing You

As the black sky befalls on us,
And winter froze all the lakes,
On a silent, cold night,

I sit in the light,
Of my own heart,
And feel the warmth,

As of you, I’d like to think,
Do the same,

When you think of me.

Tuesday, 8 September 2015

Thinking of a baby

I don’t know about you, but when we (my husband and I) tied the knot, we made the decision to try and conceive right away. I don’t truly know whether we are ready to become parents or not but when you make that kind of decision, you have to get ready, right? We are not getting any younger, even though I feel like I’m forever sweet 16, my biological clock says otherwise. And the fact that we don’t know when we will successfully make a baby / when Allah is going to bless us with a baby, thus we have to get started asap. It all comes from Allah but we have to put on efforts too. InsyaaAllah Allah will give you the best at the right time and at the right place.

Photo from here.

So I’ve been reading, to prepare myself for parenthood. I found the fact below interesting…

The four biggest reasons couples fight by John Medina, (2010)
  1. sleep loss
  2. social isolation
  3. unequal workload
  4. depression
If you want to become a parent, you have to prepare for sleep loss. I am hoping my baby will be a good boy/girl and let us sleep peacefully. Hahahaha… If not, I suppose you have to learn to take turns with your husband for the night shift and adjust your sleeping time. When the baby sleeps, you go to sleep too, but I know for most women, that’s impossible!

Social isolation… Oh well, maybe we could ask some friends to come over sometimes for a chit chat or maybe go online when the baby is sleeping and chat with your friends? 

When it comes to workload, I have no idea how to make it equal. I always enjoy doing house work alone. I don’t mind doing laundry or cooking or washing the dishes. But I suppose when you have a baby, you don’t have time to do all that anymore so it’s important to divide workload with your husband. For example, I can put dirty clothes in the washing machine and  my husband can do the drying or folding *wink* Husbands have to help their wives! If they don’t, well, major fights will occur and this can lead to depression. 

I have no experience being a parent, and hey, I have little experience about marriage life too. But I will try my best and be patient as much as I can. Making the decision to have a baby is a big thing. Once you’re pregnant, you have to study about pregnancy and parenthood as much as you can so that you are prepared when the baby arrives. Of course, you should also ask friends and family who have the experience of being parents! That can be a major help! 

Wish me luck! With a PhD to complete, being newly wed and a baby on the way, I need all the luck, good wishes and prayers from all of you. Thank you in advance :)